Top 10 Ways To Set Boundaries
Posted: Tuesday, November 25, 2008
by B RISTICH
1. Educate people way in advance: "You Know, I'm fairly touchy about people raising their voice at me..."
2. Ask the other person to stop: "I want you to stop yelling at me, now"
3. Demand that the other person stop: "I demand that you stop yelling now"
4. Walk away: "I am walking away because you refuse to respect my boundaries".
6. Warn the other person when they are getting too close: "This is escalating into a fight and..."
7. Upgrade who you hang around with: "My family/friends easily respect, and I, theirs."
8. Extend the boundary: "It used to be OK for you to be angry with me, but now.."
9. Exit from situations/people in which you'll predictably need to re-enforce your boundaries.
10. Announce/Extend the boundary the MOMENT you can tell the other person is going down the wrong path with you.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Just an opinion but in my perspective how you enforce them is important. Like you say be firm but they can be enforced without confrontation by letting others know politely that they have crossed that line. If they persist then it is time to gently say excuse me and leave.Thanx for your feedback Robert. Of course common sense and a Balanced Self Determined approach is always the best approach.
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